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volunteer schedule?

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● 💡3 Sweet Mahogany Goldfinch

hey, everyone. what do you all think of creating a volunteer schedule? i'm thinking of a spreadsheet type of thing, where listeners can put in their availability for a certain time and date (perhaps by highlighting a square in green), and a talker can sign up for that green spot.
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went too far

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

i’m feeling kinda guilty for snapping at my father’s girlfriend but she had it coming. she recently has been making rude disrespectful at my sisters and i went in on saying you’re a pathetic filthy ass bitch you don’t do shit you’re a fuckin gold diggin bitch all you do is spend my father’s money on yourself and etc i’m not gonna stand down to her level
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keeping myself in anxious/ depression i dont know why i wont change

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

im late 20s , feel totally dead inside and alone . i broke up with a long term bf last year and that boost initially from moving away from him and focusing on myself was there . after some months , back in m loneliness and my own history of depression/anxiety/avoidance has caught up on me. ive been feeling anxious, escapist or apathetic for almost 3 months now. not showering and boxing myself in my room , in bed. i know i feel no motivation to change , which sort of scares me and makes me feel bleak. im scared to change and i scared of things getting better, i dont know why i wont even help myself why im scared im actually passively leading myself to elf-sabotage .. which has happened a few times in my life. then i cant catch up and get in trouble .. lose jobs, fail my education, need time off , im too old to be making the same mistakes but i just dont feel i can keep up with life and hold on. i just want to stay in bed and hide and sleep away (im anxious). i feel so rubbish about myself that at this age im no better than i was 10 years ago
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uncalled for

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

what kind of a mother goes lashing out at her grown child saying bring your ass outside now i'm like seriously in front of my house with my husband this has gotten outta hand and i'm fed up with it considering the fact that i made the decision to stay up north when i just recently started my new two months making good money which is great but for my mom who i thought would've been proud of me she's not happy about it, all because i refused to move with her down south i stood up to her and said no i'm not moving with you down south especially dealing with your crazy peoples so she came up north to get back at me which i really don't care because you can't a grown child what to do at all there's nothing down south that i find interesting at all the jobs down there are very much slim so why would i take that choice in moving down there when there's really nothing at all
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checkin-in

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● 👍3 💡46 Gentle Polychromatic Bear

hey mellow-talkers, tide is running a bit low these days, isnt it? i hope everyone is taking care of themselves as this is hightime to do so. if you are in a better place, im glad you are doing well and i hope it only gets better. check in with your family and friends often and try helping them out. even kind words might give them the tiny bursts of boost needed. we are ever grateful for the kind souls. if you are fighting a storm inside, my friend.. please do not feel that you are alone. we are with you. you are more stronger than you believe to be. we're gonna get this stuff settled. good times will always come by. please seek help when needed. do not let the ignorance of other people make you crumble. sending you a special dose of bear hugs and warmth, cheering for your betterment.
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how miserable is it to have no one to console you except yourself?

💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

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what do you do to start caring about yourself again?

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

i cant see any reason to change , time to time i have a glimpse of motivation and hope to make changes but then it goes and i continue on my days off from work , i just ''waste away my days' and self neglect. i dont shower, lie around all day or use low level entertainment ; and eat junk . its like an addictive cycle of not caring for self and going for sleep , junk food, netflix/computergames/ youtube. the junk food is very addictive . and lying in bed im sure im gaining weight fast , but my mood. i just cant see a real reason to change for myself there must be something deep down as to why i have tendencies to self neglect but this is the longest i have been like this and i am feeling like there is no future life or hopes for me. (im older and have not improved in mental health or wellbeing in the last ten years) i have no relationships again and just hate being older and not having built anything good out of my life any wisdom or hope or insight into why i am like this? many thanks
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trying to cope with interacting with problematic media/self-worth

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

hi there, i hope that today's kind to you! basically, i got into a game i love called friday night funkin' when i was sick with covid a few months ago & it soon became a comfort game.. . i realized there was a lot of previous problematic content from the devs, such as racism/transphobia/systemized violence and such, and tried to distance myself from the media. i tried again, and it ended up becoming another comfort. when i was told by another person i follow on a social media that i am a bad person, to leave in a shouting manner, and it really hit hard, as i feel guilty and like i am truly bad. i have tried to break it and empathize with others, as a minority, who is trans, i see why, and now that i learned about the content, i feel so conflicted. even though it's a fixation i have, and it's been hard to break it, and i feel so hurt knowing that i am hated, yet i want to grow, and change, yet i feel defined as terrible if i continue to like this media, when i can just let go, though, i seem to only fixate on it... i try to remind myself that i like it from the fact that is a fun game, and that they are just a stranger on the internet who probably would not say that to my face, i don't know how to feel, i guess i'm trying to say that it just hurts a lot to feel so judged as black-and-white. i want to respect their boundaries and will unfollow them though i feel shaken. it's difficult with already having mental health problems, and i've felt improved with my self-esteem for a while, though, this interaction has made me feel like i should re-evaluate who i am, and i do not want to seep into self-hatred again. i hope this makes sense, i am not trying to excuse myself, just explain why i feel hurt. and, thank you for your time. i know that none of my friends, family, therapists, or classmates find me as someone who is lacking a moral compass or guide, who is bad, rude, or disgusting, and i genuinely want to be a good person, and struggle with self-worth and i'm trying to remind myself that i can try to move past this...
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woo yeah mental health degrading era

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● 👍3 💡25 Slightly Symmetrical Monkey

the title is sarcastic. anyways wow it's been a while!! i'm definitely doing better than my worst point ig but i've gone back to cutting daily which probably isn't a good thing, but it's much less than before. and now it's more of a habit kind of thing instead of me feeling shit and then cutting so it's not like feeling better will fix this. i think i'm fine with it though. maybe! but anyways uhhh it kinda sucks that i have no ways of killing myself but ive practiced stabbing myself a bit?? its a lot harder than a lot of ppl would think lol anyways thanks for reading
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still feeling guilt

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

a part of me wants to approach him but then another part of me wants to stay far away i still feel guilt for not being truthful with him i can only blame myself and i would rather take ownership for my actions for leading him on because that what i did if i could change what happened things wouldn’t gotten so bad but it did when i see him the only i can do is cry asking myself why did this happen? i wrote a letter to him however i didn't give it to him yet but i wonder should i give him the letter or not
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attempts for peace

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

my daughter’s father had text me the other day asking if i could talk with him. my first instincts was like really? all of sudden he wants to talk after what crap he put me through he wants to talk. i didn’t give my thought about it but then i was like i’ll get ahead with it he wanna to talk about how guilty he felt for mistreating me saying foul stuff to me that i didnt like as of result i couldn’t stand to be near him because but he wanna make peace with me to apologize for his actions stating the it doesn’t excuse for what he said and for that i can agree.i was very thankful that he took the time to reach out to me in wanting to make peace and amends he said i want us to be able to talk without arguing
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depression for life?

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

i just cant fight it. i'm too passive a slip into depression again and again. i have anxiety which leads to lot of avoidance that turns into depression. the pattern the last 10 years has been such a drag. i've lost my relationships due to depression and ended up isolating myself and functioning terribly. i'm scared i'm going to lose my job by underperforming and being so spaced out and clueless. i'm not switched on, i just want to escape life but it catches up with me and i struggle. i'm so emotionally not resilient, i haven't learned how to handle myself.. my emotions and my activities. how do people do it? i feel destined to stay alone because i'm so useless and depressive. i'm no more than i was 10 years ago, and worse because in older and haven't learnt
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what’s the point?

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

does anyone else just wonder what the bloody point of it all is? there are nearly 8 billion people on this earth. i’m in a medical profession helping people, but there’s thousands upon thousands (probably millions) of people world wide who do what i do, so do i really make any difference in the world? is there really any point in me being here? hardly anyone would even notice i was gone. and even if i stayed - it’s all just nothing. it’s all meaningless in the end. the roller coaster is the emotions you have to deal with along the way, but the events themselves that happen are essentially pointless. so i come here to share and vent because i have no-one in my life that i can actually talk like this to. it has to be all rainbows fluffy kittens. i feel so defeated. there really just doesn’t seem to be any point anymore - at least not for me.
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isolated

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

7 cups just permanently ip banned because of an account issue (seriously) and then their support team ghosted me like the cowards they are. no matter what i did they just never replied. this site seems really nice but i'm scared to become vulnerable enough to talk to someone again. :( please help. i need a hug.
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emotional

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

if there’s one thing i wish i could take back is sending those two emoji hearts to him, when i was just getting to know him i myself feel like i wasn’t be 100% truthful it’s a bad situation if he was to come up to me i would say to him i know saying sorry isn’t enough for how much i disappointed you but i hope it will just show i’ve realized and regretted my actions. i apologize that’s what would’ve said to him all i just want is for us to just talk this out and fix the issues
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feeling lost and alone

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● 👍1 💡1 Superb Rainbow Eagle

i feel totally stuck. i'm in my mid twenties, work from home (even outside of the pandemic), live alone, and i'm single. after my boyfriend and i broke up in september, i felt amazing. so free, and life was so much better. and it still is better without him, believe me, but now the "boost" i got from life suddenly improving is gone, and everything feels "normal." i feel totally isolated and alone, as many of the friends i was seeing have moved recently, or are isolating pretty strictly due to covid. the friends i do talk to and the one i see regularly, i love, but somehow it just feels unfulfilling nowadays, like the friendships are lacking real substance and depth anymore. my motivation is draining so fast, and i'm increasingly just killing time watching youtube or sleeping. i have a history of depression, so i'm really trying not to let this become a full on depressive episode. my job is not in the career field i'm pursuing, and my progress toward my real career goals is stalling, partially due to to covid, and getting worse because of my lack of motivation. i know i could try doing more spontaneous things, making little changes, etc. but with the cloud of loneliness always over my head and it being so difficult to make new friends/partners during the pandemic, making these changes feels impossible. but i desperately want to feel like i'm really living again. any advice?
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i wish this site was more active

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

i was looking for a site similar to blah therapy/7 cups and came across this. however, no one seems to be available to chat to 😔 it’s a shame this site isn’t more useful/well known!
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in love with my best friend

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● 💡1 Majestically Silky Loris

there's a girl who goes to my high school who i have been best friends with for years. we have known each other since we were both 13, we sit together in lessons and so on and we like have so much in common. but we have never taken it further than like just friends. anyway she has been going through like a rough time lately cos her mom lost her job and has been struggling to pay rent, her home life has never been great but its kinda worse right now. and we were chatting a couple weeks ago and she was kinda venting to me about how tough things have been and i kinda just suddenly felt like i loved her so much and i just wanted to hold her and like make all the problems go away. like since then i have been thinking a lot about her and i think i literally am in love with her, i cant imagine what my life would be like if it didnt have her in it. but i dont know if she feels the same about me, she has never hinted at it. and she is my best friend, i dont wanna ruin the friendship we have by telling her this if she doesnt feel the same way. and i'm pretty awkward about these things at the best of times haha. but at the same time i feel like i just really have to tell her and ill regret it my whole life if i dont.
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sex toy breakage

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

this question is definitely quite confusing can a woman use dildos to break her hymen or not
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last name

details 💬︎ reply 💎︎ ● Anonymous

when i got married to him it was six years then we broke up and it was my name by then, everybody knew me by then and when you meet somebody else, then people are addressing you by your previous husband’s name, it’s a tricky one.

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