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how to get over people

posted by Anonymous on 11 November, 2020

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can anyone tell how to get over people who don't care for you? how to overcome the fear of loosing them as a friend?




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👍3 💡20 Gentle Polychromatic Bear ● 13 November, 2020 ⚓︎


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hey anon, im sorry to hear that you're experiencing that fear. im gonna give you some tough love, okay? you dont need to spend time and energy on some person who doesn't care for you. they might've been a friend to you before but if they really aren't caring about you, its okay.. you're gonna respectfully step back from it. this would be the time where you take care of yourself, maybe get some support from family or friends. sometimes people drift apart with time, its just how life happens. i'd say, its gonna be alright and you'll find yourself with friends again, the one's that care for you as much as you do. hey, world's a big place and there are friends behind stranger's faces! you gotta be careful but you can find them easily if you know the right places! hope you feel better and strong, take care!

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Loving Leathery Herring ● 16 November, 2020 ⚓︎


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ok so i was madly in love with this guy in highschool who just used me... when i finally realized that.. it hurt a lot i spent 1 yr trying to get over him, tried all sort of ways but in the end only the thing he did that showed he cared/ things he did that showed he didn't list helped me out also going out with your best friend, eating and working out, focusing on yourself helps you take ur mind of things..

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Anonymous ● 20 November, 2020 ⚓︎


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good advice from lovely leathery and gentle bear the overall sentiment from counselling , is that to look compassionately at yourself and treat yourself with respect and dignity and care again. this is practiced in all the small things you do with yourself and in choosing to send time with people who do value you and new people who brings acceptance and friendliness. nothing like learning how to be a good friend to yourself its very difficult peeling away from a romantic situation where you starting to depend on a person to 'love you' or show you basic respect; hard to leave when your attached but it can be done

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Anonymous ● 20 November, 2020 ⚓︎


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theres a friend that i have , she has basically been ignoring me despie me showing her that i cared about her in the end , i thought , i will refrain from even bothering making contact with her now its a lack of respect , even value that she has with the friendship she was acting inauthentic and that has just continued i dont want to continue attempting to recontact someone who cant be real with themselves i do feel annoyed at her and i will leave it at that. it is not my loss to not deal with her anymore, there are so many better things to focus on and enjoy with other people all she was into since she joined a social clique is excess shopping and shisha