posted by Anonymous on 06 May, 2019
hi! i have some problems to communicate with others, mostly when using app like whatsapp, facebook messenger, etc. when i using them, i feel like i being kind of cold or don't really demonstrating what i really feel, so i kind of feel bad about using them, principally whan talking with someone i'm not very familiar or when asking a favor (not sure if it's the way i write the messages or that because i don't use emojis, i don't like them). sorry for who is reading this, i kind of beated around the bush, but let's talk about the problem. this year, i'm trying to participate in a scholarship, but i need a recomendation letter, so i asked to a teacher and she gave me a positive response. last year i had asked, so i asked again, thinking it was easier to her, because she already had an idea about the letter. since then, passed almost two weeks and i didn't received any sign about the letter, so thinking she perhaps forgot about it, in a weekend i wrote a message, something like: "hi, how is the letter?". after sending it, i kind of regreted about how i wrote it (don't know why, but every time i send a message to her, i feel like i need to rewrite it again), but i received a sign that she read the message and didn't answer it. already passed one day since this happened and i don't know what to do. i feel like i need to apologize about the way i wrote the message, because i feeling really bad and sad about it. was i wrong about sending the message, is she angry about it, or is she so busy to talk about it? i really apreciate anyone responding it thank you very much
Anonymous ● 07 May, 2019 ⚓︎
it is her responsibility to respond to you if she agreed. checking up on her is no big deal. no need to worry about your actions. you were in the right. it sounds like you are being anxious about communication. sometimes it can be hard not talking face to face, but assuming that what you sent is wrong is a bad way of looking at things. try and limit the amount you consider what you're going to say and the amount of times you check your phone. talk like you would in real life. if you communicate well as a person you'll communicate well online. no big deal. in the same vein, sometimes people misunderstand what you are trying to say. and that is okay. it's part of life. not everything can be perfect. so it really isn't worth worrying about because it realistically won't affect you.
Anonymous ● 07 May, 2019 ⚓︎
thank you for answering it <3. when i finished writing this post, it sothed my heart and mind, but with your answer, kind of light up my day, not sure if this is the right expression (took it from a music), but i feel really better. saw the message but still didn't answered it, so i was thinking in talking with them again in this weekend , because i don't want to bother them during the week (a teacher job is not easy, i know it). do you think this is a better action to take?
Anonymous ● 08 May, 2019 ⚓︎
nothing wrong with a follow-up. its professional you might want to look for other recommenders in the meantime because clearly she is either too busy or doesn't care