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posted by Anonymous on 26 April, 2020

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i wrote a piece about positivity that gained some traction on social media. even some writers i respect commented on it. i posted it quickly, and i had a huge typo. no one pointed it out to me, but i realized it tonight and went back to correct it. i am so embarrassed and now can’t sleep. how do you cope with feeling ashamed and anxious at night especially? thanks!




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💡7 Festive Brown Moose ● 26 April, 2020 ⚓︎


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i heard that melatonin is really good at making you go to sleep and for some people asmr helps them. we all make mistakes! it’s okay! what you feel is perfectly valid and you deserve to take care of yourself and get some good rest!

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💡127 💎2 Delightful Scarlet Jellyfish ● 30 April, 2020 ⚓︎


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hi there! what you're feeling is completely normal. sure, people will tell you it's not that big of a deal, that nobody will care about that small (or huge) typo. and you know what? they're right, of course, but, for some reason, that doesn't make you feel better. you can't avoid feeling ashamed or embarrassed, especially at night, because that's when all your mistakes come crushing in. however, there are some ways you can deal with that. as someone already told you, mindfulness exercises are a great way to deal with your anxiety. melatonin, "the sleep hormone", is also a great way to regulate your sleeping patterns and to help you fall asleep. however, as a supplement, you should never take without a doctor's prescription. if you want to regulate your own melatonin levels, a good tip is to never use electronic devices before going to bed. other useful advice are things like exercising during the day (but never at night) or doing a little bit of light reading before falling asleep. as in everything else, you need to find for yourself what works and what doesn't. finally, congrats for what you wrote. if it was acknowledged, i bet it was darn good! keep up the good work!

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💡4 Light Sturdy Bear ● 05 May, 2020 ⚓︎


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hello, the main point you need to remember is what you wrote about positivity obviously helped allot of people, whether that be directly or indrectly. i completely understand that it has made you feel this way, however you just need to keep in mind the support you have provided other people. yes you may have made a typo, but no one mentioned it and you corrected in time. that in it self is great! you should never feel embarrassed on what you did lots of people even the best writters in the world make those very mistakes, its okay and all you got from your piece was not hate....but like the piece you wrote...positivity!! i see some people recommending ways to help you sleep and remedies to support it. thats all great advise in its own way, but also try to support your mind first...try your best not to dwell on a mistake that did not directly affect anyone, you should be feeling proud and happy that not only has your piece gained so much attention but undoubtably supported so many people out there! try to think about the happiness you have brought others, about how it has helped so many with no bad coming from it. think about the possive and then try to do some breathing exercises. there are many tutorials which can support the relaxation of your mind, once your in that safe space of mind hopefully this will support you in sleeping a little easier. the feelings you experience wont always dissapear over night it may take sometime but in due course it will get easier, it will, and never forget what greatness came from the piece you wrote. well done!!

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Anonymous ● 27 April, 2020 ⚓︎


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this is a really relatable feeling. i still struggle with ruminating about posts online. i think it's just the idea that its out and published for the world to see as an example of our work. the key is realizng that when we spend too much time thinking about what we post online, we are giving the post an importance which it does not deserve. nothing you make is worth losing sleep over. the post is not all you are and nobody thinks so either. shame and anxiety are very strong words. where do these feelings come from?

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Anonymous ● 10 May, 2020 ⚓︎


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wow all the people here are so supportive. the replies really helped me so thank you!

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Anonymous ● 27 April, 2020 ⚓︎


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i guarntee nobody cares about typos as much as you think they do. if you saw a typo in a post you liked would you care about it as much as the stress you're putting yourself through dictates? of course not.

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Anonymous ● 27 April, 2020 ⚓︎


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simple mindfulness exercises before bed work wonders