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struggles with socializing (tw: death, grief)

posted by Anonymous on 22 August, 2019

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hello there, i hope today's been kind to you! ♥ i just wanted to share something i've been working on, as i've always had a hard time socializing, since i was young as i cope with being neurodivergent, since my irl best friend died, it's been harder to be social, though, i've tried reconnecting with an old high school friend, an old friend i made from being in a quinceanera & making a new online friend & reconnecting with them, though, it seems we've all fell out & i don't have any offline friends, i've noticed in my attempts i try through face-to-face, apps, social media, or messaging, i often end up in a situation where i left the last message & i feel uneasy about double-texting, so neither one of us reaches out, or it seems that our friendship doesn't progress & falls out, i'm unsure what to do, especially if we exchanged contact info face-to-face, i feel we're not on the same page, emotionally, which may be a factor... tl;dr: as someone who copes with being neurodivergent & the loss of my best friend, i've found myself without friends in my city, and in situations where i feel our conversations & friendship come to a stalemate, where i don't feel comfortable double-texting & unsure of what to do to maintain a healthy, happy friendship both online & irl, thank you for reading & i hope today's been kind to you ! ♥




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Anonymous ● 29 August, 2019 ⚓︎


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that's a terrible thing to have happen to you. but it's a very good thing you're coping with it in such a healthy way by trying to reach out and meet new people. it is never easy to fill a void that someone else left and nobody will ever fill it perfectly. however, you'll find with the more people you meet there is an infinite number of ways a person can be and each one requires its own appreciation. you're a strong person for writing this out. thank you for sharing

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Anonymous ● 03 September, 2019 ⚓︎


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thank you so much for your kindness, validation, and for believing i am strong, as well as your encouragement, all i can do is do my best, and i really feel what you mean on that, i don't think anyone can ever replace him, though, it is true, with all the people in the world, that it's possible to make a new friend, and to love them again & enjoy our friendship,thank you too for taking your time to listen & share with me, i appreciate it ♥

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Anonymous ● 29 August, 2019 ⚓︎


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neurodivergent how? we all struggle with connecting with people no matter the mental set. especially after loss. no need to worry in that regard, you'll find people with time no question

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Anonymous ● 03 September, 2019 ⚓︎


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that makes sense, and i struggle with several mental illnesses, although i'm in therapy; i understand where you're coming from & what you mean, it is true that socializing can be hard for anyone, no matter who they are, thank you for your time to listen & to reassure me, i really appreciate that & you & for giving me hope, i hope the rest of your day treats you well ♥

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Anonymous ● 29 August, 2019 ⚓︎


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don't try to force it. try and meet people by doing things with mutual interests

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Anonymous ● 03 September, 2019 ⚓︎


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thank you for your insight & i appreciate you listening to me, that's very true, i've been meaning to go to my lgbt club at my school, hopefully they'll have a meeting i can go to soon & or look around at clubs at school, thanks again & i hope your day will be good to you ♥