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where should i go from here??

posted by 💡2 Deep Glowing Bear on 28 October, 2019

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hello. i will try to keep this as short and put together as possible. my life is a bit of a mess right now. right now i am 4 months pregnant and i have an appointment for an abortion on friday. i have no money to get to the appointment and no one to be there with me after the appointment. so after i get it done i will be alone. i am getting the abortion because i can't take care of it let alone take care of myself. i'm pretty bad at being an adult so i feel that ending it now is the best thing for me. the main problem that i'm having right now is being severely depressed and alone. i'm sitting in my apartment right now that i share with a roommate but he is gone to see his family and i'm here laying in the dark watching mad men. even though i have to do this i still tried to be as grateful as i can. i guess what i'm trying to say is i don't know where to go from here i don't have any family with me i don't have any friends with me me and the baby dad stop talking i don't have any support system whatsoever. after i get the procedure done i'm getting another job to work at getting myself a car. how can i stop being so alone and lonely and where do i go from here?




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💡62 💎2 Delightful Scarlet Jellyfish ● 29 October, 2019 ⚓︎


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hi there! you say you live with a roommate. is he just someone you know or is he some sort of friend? i really hope everything goes well with the abortion. even though you don't have anyone to go with you, i'll spend some time thinking about you on friday, and, afterwards, if you feel comfortable doing so, i'd appreciate if you could come here to tell us how everything went and how you'll be doing.

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we are friends but not that close. he does his own thing and i do mine. and yes, i will update how everything goes on friday. thanks

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💡62 💎2 Delightful Scarlet Jellyfish ● 29 October, 2019 ⚓︎


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how are you feeling right now?

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💡2 Deep Glowing Bear ● 29 October, 2019 ⚓︎


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hi. right now i'm feeling the same. stressed as the days get closer. but trying to think of other things. there's not really much i can do about being here alone and going through it by myself. i guess i have to suck it up. i just can't wait til it's all over and i can look forward to my life getting better. thank you for caring. absolutely no one has bothered to ask how i'm doing through this. i'm trying to stay positive and pray..

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💡62 💎2 Delightful Scarlet Jellyfish ● 29 October, 2019 ⚓︎


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well, i think we can now say you're not alone. sure, i'm not physically by your side, but i'm still a person. and i care. and there are more people that care about you in here. always feel free to post if you want some advice or if you only want to vent. there's always someone to listen. there's always someone who cares.

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💡2 Deep Glowing Bear ● 01 November, 2019 ⚓︎


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ive decided i'm going to keep my baby. and figure it all out. i just couldn't bring myself to go to the appointment today let alone the procedure tomorrow. i am exhausted. but i'm gonna suck it up and love my baby.

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you know it's not friday yet, as you mentioned you're praying i'll assume you believe in a higher power. do you have any churches you could walk to or call? they may have programs or know of programs that may be able to help you if you explain your situation to them. thinking and praying for you

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Anonymous ● 01 November, 2019 ⚓︎


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