posted by Anonymous on 21 March, 2020
hello all, im sort of stuck living in my anxious ways and avoiding life a lot sometimes i cant trust other's advice yet i also dont trust my own senses. i cant seem to make decision for myself on what to do and feel determined in them. im very evasive and avoid doing things i cant sense or think of what sort of future or outcomes i want all i see and feel is my own sense of smallness and incompetence. i am being very passive and unable to make myself venture out i often dont take on people /counsellors suggestions because underlying i have anxiety and a sense of hopelessness about things , so though i may appear to be saying yes but deep down i cant action it what can i do to trust my own choices and believe in myself more ? i feel like im not a person, just a bunch of nerves i dont know how i can continue to live like this in the future. its like im not fully a person i fear seeing my extended family in weddings because theyll realise i am nowhere in my life and so shaky . i wish i felt stronger as a person but i feel weak , hiding away all the time some advice would be appreciated on how to deal with the anxiety , how to over come it.. how i can be a stronger person thank you
hello there! the kind of anxiety you're describing seems to be unbearable, for it is strongly influencing your daily life. it can make you feel petrified and unable to function properly. i understand how you're feeling and i want you to know you're not alone. unfortunately, this is way more common than it should be. on the bright side, its commonness is what makes it possible to overcome. it is not easy to start dealing with your anxiety, to start taking those steps. i have no magical formula for you to erase your anxiety, the only way you can learn how to deal with it is by confronting the things that make you anxious. the problem with this is that, most of the time, people tend to immediately grab the bull by the horns. well, this rarely works, because you have to start small, take it step by step. for example, if you feel anxious leaving your house, start going on daily walks of 15 minutes, then proceed to make them last 30 minutes, then 45, etc. this is just an example, it is your duty to find what works with you and what doesn't. you don't have to feel weak or ashamed. maybe you're not where you want to be right now, but you are where you need to. confronting your family will become a lot easier if you embrace this and understand that, sometimes, life's a lot easier if you just embrace it. i hope you stay okay and, whenever you need, mellowtalk is here for you!
Anonymous ● 28 March, 2020 ⚓︎
hi, it sounds like your entire self and daily functioning is completely debilitated . sometimes one had to take one day at a time , and focus on the small actions that one can do build yourself from those starting points to start pushing your boundaries out further this can be a start to you regaining your belief in yourself , skills and abilities the less you do , the less brave , less useful and able you can feel . by challenging yourself , you give yourself the opportunity to proove to yourself that you are stronger than you (negarively) think