posted by Anonymous on 23 December, 2022
its been a little less than a month since i found out my spouse of 8 years cheated on me. i feel like an idiot because i thought we were so in love. we had all these plans for the future and now they’re just gone. they asked to talk to me a few days ago, and they said that “there’s always a chance we could get back together. because true love always finds it’s way back” but they’re now in a relationship with the person they cheated with. did they think i was going to wait around for them? did they just want to see if the grass was greener on the other side? im torn because i don’t want to be used but i miss them so much, and i loved them to pieces. i don’t know how to move on without it hurting so much.
from my vantage point, maybe i think that you should kind of.....place a notice on your webpage that you're single. then kind of...do a blog challenge kind of thing and just answer questions since you might not really have much to do or much to explore without a boyfriend or without a date. actually, just sit tight at home if you don't have a date right now. just blog and write things. just answer blog challenges and make sure you look like a lame but loveable person.
so sorry to hear that. i found out before christmas that my wife of 17 years had had an affair and like you im gutted. my advice would be time.. take your time.
you need to find someone who respects you and doesn't hurt or want to hurt you. you deserve the world so make sure you get someone to treat you that way. avoid them, ignore them, don't let them play with your mind, don't let them use you. you are a strong person and you will move on, just give it time. i hope i helped with this advice.
Anonymous ● 25 December, 2022 ⚓︎
you should stay strong and stick to avoiding him. you’ll only feel bad if you go around and allow him to use you. take one day at a time. give yourself time to heal. respect yourself, treat yourself kindly and understand that you deserve better. the hurt is strong now but these emotions will pass. understand your boundaries then stick to them.
Anonymous ● 30 December, 2022 ⚓︎
yes, they thought you would wait around for them. so don't. move on with your life and find someone who respects you. put yourself first.