posted by Anonymous on 15 November, 2019
how do i tell my roommate he is disgusting. like filthy and dirty and has the worst hygiene. he literally stays in the living room all day on the video game and finish it up cuz he hasn't showered in weeks. and that's no lie. he smells horrid. doesn't wash his clothes. doesn't wear underwear. goes to the bathroom and pees on the seat and even leaves poop marks and smudges on the seat. and just walks out. literally. i'm so sad that i'm not even exaggerating here. doesn't wash his hands. doesn't clean. and he got sick and coughs everywhere and doesn't care he's getting germs everywhere.he gets bloody noses and bleeds all over the bathroom and doesn't fucking clean it up!! he's the nastiest white dude i've ever seen. and all white dudes i've seen have been gross in some way. and to top it all off he eats all his food after grocery shopping in a few days then starts to eat all mine. he's lactose intolerant so he drinks his no lactose milk and still drinks all my regular milk and ice cream. then blows up the bathroom. i've grown to despise him. i know exactly why his gf left him. and i'm dipping out of here as soon as i get my next housing situation secured. i'm not paying rent cuz his rich boss pays it. cuz he cries every five minutes about how hard things are for him. honestly i'm not moved by his bs. i just want to get away from him. he's beyond a liar. and lies to all his friends on online gaming that he has so many girls chasing him and that's a lie!! if any other girls saw him they would be disgusted as i am. how should i tell him i'm disgusted or should i just keep my mouth shut as i've been doing. i'm trying. but i don't know how much longer i can take. i needed a place to vent. and i'm sure he doesn't know this site.
yikes. i wouldn't say anything to him, the dude knows, trust me, he knows this isn't normal and i wonder if what your experiencing is a side-effect to some mental illness your roommate had. thats not to sympathize with him, because like i said he knows what he is doing is beyond disgusting, its just to let you know that talking to him with the possibility that there is mental illness means the conversation is not going to go anywhere. its not going to magically make it better, in fact it will just create more tension. find your next place and peace out.
Anonymous ● 19 November, 2019 ⚓︎
^^^^ this. he's peeing, smearing poop and leaving his blood to dry up in the bathroom. yeeeeah he knows that thaaaaat is gross. the thing is he is sailing with strong mental illness flags and he's probably not caring in the sense of what a healthy-minded person would. you outta think him and his gurl had talks before she left. which makes me think 3 things 1.) a loved one talked to him and left him because he wouldn't change or make efforts for his health. 2.) what makes a roommate (which is the only relationship you have with this guy, right?) have the ability to shine a light on a dude like this and make him see his errors? it won't because he's not caring in the same way a healthy-minded person would. 3.) if you do open pandora's box your probably going to get a victim-induced roommate, you're going to be seen as uncaring and oh my gawwwd how could you say that to him when you know xyz is happening to him... like the same crap he feeds his boss. when you find your place, when you can bounce, teeeeelllll him! until then i agree with the only commentator who has registered to be apart of this site.
Anonymous ● 18 November, 2019 ⚓︎
definitely get out of there as soon as you can. and i disagree with the other poster, it's worth mentioning. maybe if he understands what he is doing to the people around him he'll seek some help. from what you've said, it does sound like the side effect of some mental illness. try your best to be empathetic and the better person until this works out. approach him neutrally and out of a place of concern, not anger.
hey there! i definitely think that, when you have the opportunity, you should get the hell outta there! nevertheless, i think this issue is worth a talk with your roommate. even though i agree with tiny red bison when he/she says that your roommate knows what he's doing, i'm personally convinced that you can't ignore his behavior, because it's putting you in an uncomfortable situation.
Anonymous ● 18 November, 2019 ⚓︎
man, i'm sorry you have to deal with that. i do have one point though that even though you're upset, generalizing white people based on negative behavior just adds to the problem. it's an ugly mindset