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wrong choice of food

posted by Anonymous on 16 May, 2021

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my brother is obese and i’m concerned for him, i know it’s not my business to tell him what he should do in all, i just wanna see him healthy. he wanna to go to mcdonald’s and get double cheeseburgers shake i’m like you should be a gettin a salad not no double cheeseburger




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👍5 💡61 💎1 Gentle Polychromatic Bear ● 17 May, 2021 ⚓︎


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hey anon, i get your concern but saying just that to your brother wouldnt help him anyway and there's a chance that he can get hurt over the comment and turn defensive. its not a proper way, even, to switch from a heavy diet to salad suddenly. find a quiet place, sit with him and ask if he's up for a talk about it. go with his decision. or you can say that you want to see him healthier, so would support him if he chooses a healthy way of life and that starts with the advice from a professional, imo.

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👍2 💡19 💎1 Warmly Silken Leopard ● 17 May, 2021 ⚓︎


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another point to try and keep in mind is that trying to control the symptoms of an issue is not as effective to long term help as is trying to address the root causes. often, but not always, the root cause of this is someone not valuing themselves as they should. when you dont value yourself and therefor dont value taking care of yourself, overeating or overdrinking can be one of many effects. perhaps your brother needs to be reminded of his worth and of the worth of a healthy positive active life. that could take time though.

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Anonymous ● 17 May, 2021 ⚓︎


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telling him to get a salad really isn't kind or helpful. that's what everyone says to overweight people. it does not convey your genuine concern. if you want to have a serious talk with him, do it. but don't just pick on what he eats.

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Anonymous ● 17 May, 2021 ⚓︎


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im not trying to but i just want him to be careful with what he puts in his system

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Anonymous ● 18 May, 2021 ⚓︎


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it's not that your brother is unaware of his choices. he eats unhealthy since he is unable to control himself as the food is tastier to him, or perhaps he deliberately wants to harm his health. if the food taste is what drives his choice, then your conversation should center around moderation/ balancing his diet. perhaps he can have one salad for every nine cheeseburgers. and alter this ration in an incremental manner if he sees the merits of eating healthy later and realizes that he actually does not mind eating salad etc at times. the second possibility is that he choose unhealthy foods to hurt himself. this can be due to a host of factors and requires you to listen to him, observe and understand his circumstances, etc.

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Anonymous ● 18 May, 2021 ⚓︎


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i get your point

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Evenly Fuzzy Zebra ● 21 May, 2021 ⚓︎


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i totally get that you are concerned and i am sure that deep down he knows that it's not good for him, but it's diffcult specially admitting isn't always easy, maybe you could motivate him in another kind of way, like maybe you could cook something healthy for or with him or you could talk to him about his problems, since obese people tend to eat their problems away, you could just show him that you are there for him and that he has a shoulder he can lean on and that he doesn't have to go through this alone, i know, you are concerned but you have to patient, it takes time wishing you all the best :)

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Anonymous ● 22 May, 2021 ⚓︎


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nicely said! hope the poster reads it