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awkward ex-best friend

posted by 👍2 💡11 Little Silver Peony on 21 June, 2019

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hi, i'm new here but really need some insights. so i have this friend who used to be one of my best friends. we've drifted a bit because she got these new friends who i don't really fit in with. now i don't interact with her that much and when i do, it's always soooo awkward. i miss the times when we were very close and i want to fix that friendship. how can i do this?




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Anonymous ● 22 June, 2019 ⚓︎


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we've all experienced this kind of thing before. sometimes people just fall out of touch for some reason. in this case it's because you don't have anything to talk about. try to avoid old topics and find something new and exciting! you can still have that friendship it's just important not to take it for granted

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👍2 💡11 Little Silver Peony ● 23 June, 2019 ⚓︎


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thanks much! i'll try that...

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Anonymous ● 22 June, 2019 ⚓︎


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i find that sometimes when i want to hang out with people i haven't seen in a while i expect us to just pick up where we left off. but in reality that can't really happen because our lives aren't as intertwined as they were before. that's okay, it happens. the key isn't to dwell on the past and appreciate the friend for who they are. don't rely on past friendships to carry a conversation. that would just be phoning it in and feels forced. that's no fun at all. instead look for things in their life you want to talk about and can share together. find that common ground that made you two so compatible in the first place.

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👍2 💡11 Little Silver Peony ● 23 June, 2019 ⚓︎


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thank you for your advice! really helped :)

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Anonymous ● 22 June, 2019 ⚓︎


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i want to offer a counter point and say it isn't essential to keep all our friends super close all the time. sometimes people just stop talking and that is so okay. if you two are good together, there's no point in worrying about it because you'll find some time to hang out anyway

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👍2 💡11 Little Silver Peony ● 23 June, 2019 ⚓︎


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i never really thought of it that way before, maybe your right! thanks so much!

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Anonymous ● 22 June, 2019 ⚓︎


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try going out and doing something that doesn't necessarily rely on what you did in the past so you can have more natural conversations about it

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👍2 💡11 Little Silver Peony ● 23 June, 2019 ⚓︎


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i'll try that, thanks!