posted by Constantly Blue Apple on 11 November, 2019
the talker option didn't really give that much help when i tried it, so might as well give this a shot. i'm sorry if i end up writing up a bunch of rambles that lead to nowhere but it's 1 am here and i'm tired so please bear with me. for the last few months ever since summer break i've suddenly started having violent tendencies and in general got more agressive as a person. i don't get how or why it started since i'm usually a very passive person and try to keep myself out of argument or fights. at first it started small, just the urge to lash out and blatantly tell the other person to fuck themselves or even shout at them if they did something even a little irritating like make a stupid joke, but then it got slowly worse with me starting to loose patience and passively agressively urging to person to continue on with what they were going to say if they yawn in the middle of the sentence or get stuck trying to remember what they wanted to say, all the while barely holding myself from trying to beat them fiercely with either my fists or whatever blunt object i could find in our area. i'd have little fantasies okay through my head in that instant and i even feel the ghost of my hand actually doing it which scares the fuck out of me since i realize that i was actually close to doing it. it doesn't really matter to who i'm talking to, it could be my friends, classmates, random people i don't know, my parents. pretty much everyone gets me to this state. i haven't gone through with severely hurting anyone yet in my life. i somewhat manage to hold it back but i've taken a few swings at my friend's when we were going out drinking and they were intoxicated while i was sober as it just relaxed me and i knew they probably wouldn't mind since they'd think i'm drunk aswell. but due to us not really going out like that often i sometimes have the urges pop back up out of no where when i get home and i take it out on my dogs by kicking them and holding them down while i punch them a few times in the guy or face. i feel extremely shitty about it after and even hold them and try to comfort them but in the moment it's just so refreshing. the only things that manage to calm me down are either completely isolation or music. it just brings peace to my mind but if i stay isolated for too long i start feeling like a lonely piece of shit and think about how much of a failure i am. i haven't told this to a single soul because i'm scared of judgement, because i know they'll think i'm some sort of psychopath in the making. i really don't know why these tendencies started just recently going through my head but they progressively get worse and worse to the point i'm subconsciously thinking about doing these hideous things when i walk sometimes and realize it after a minute or two. i know to some these things may seem like not that big of a deal but it's really messing with me and don't know what to do at this point.
i don't think you're a psychopath, but you're dealing with trauma in perhaps the most unhealthy way possible. you're lucky this site is anonymous because what you just posted is admissible in court. you need to take a long hard look at yourself and then go to therapy immediately because right now you are a danger to others and yourself. having issues holding back anger is not uncommon, but what you described is indefensible. get some help because right now, whether you want to admit it or not, you are abusing your pets and assaulting your friends. you can't justify this, you can only grow from it. get rid of the animals until you can deal with this issue. it is very serious and they don't deserve to be beaten as a coping mechanism.
have you ever experienced physical trauma, such as head trauma? side effects to head trauma can be that a person is more aggressive. it is also be a reaction when a person is exposed to abuse or stressful environments, because you were taught that when you are angry you can lash out and focus that anger on a person or animal. my advice is put your pets up for adoption, this isn't to punish you or take from you but instead prevent you from having an outlet that harms another living breathing being. secondly, you need to find a local cognitive behavioral therapy treatment for anger disorders. these therapist are going to help you have the right tools to address angry-flare ups. all the best to you
the chemicals in your brain are changing because you are cognitively aware your actions are wrong. yet in the moment you find joy in the violence which means you are chemically different during an episode. go to the emergency room and explain you have these violent fantasies. i dont think this will go away until you get a good medication regimen. it sounds like the onset of schizophrenia which occurs most often in young adults. please get help and dont give up until you get that help because if the tendencies get stronger you may not be able to hold it back. no matter how strong a wall is it will fall if the pressure increases. you need meds to strengthen the wall. exercise, a punching bag, pillow, couch or anything is better than the living breathing animals. so find another way. you can do it and they deserve it.
Anonymous ● 11 November, 2019 ⚓︎
hi, first of all can i please ask you to avoid hitting your dogs. animals have no reason to be harmed. secondly, finding an outlet for all your physical needs might be helpful. have you ever considered any kind of exercise to let it all out? boxing for example? again, please don't harm your pets. i wish you the best and hope you can find a different way to handle this.