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how miserable is it to have no one to console you except yourself?

posted by Anonymous on 24 March, 2021

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💡3 Sweet Mahogany Goldfinch ● 27 March, 2021 ⚓︎


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for me, it's sometimes frustrating, but mostly bearable. what helps in my case is envisioning a wise woman called "logic", distinct from me and my emotions, whose goal is to comfort me and provide guidance.

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Anonymous ● 28 March, 2021 ⚓︎


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nothing could be better than developing the ability to console yourself. that is true enlightenment. instead of calling it "miserable" try to realize that the only person who is 100% present for you is you.

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👍3 💡46 Gentle Polychromatic Bear ● 30 March, 2021 ⚓︎


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hey anon, other make good points and i see yours too. one is inclined to feel lonely and wanting to have someone in their corner, support them when things go blue. more so, as we seem to see that all around us and feel why we dont have it. but friend, we are the only constant companion to ourself than any other relation can be. even if one is surrounded by many, one has to pick themselves up in the dire times. and be as encouraging to ourselves as though we would with a loved one. having said that, asking for help and getting help are the ways to get out from that notion. though we might know you, we all are here for you and so would be a good therapist when you reach out. i dunno what else to say, but wish you feel better by now. sending you warm bear hugs and much strength.

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👍3 💡46 Gentle Polychromatic Bear ● 30 March, 2021 ⚓︎


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oops, i meant to type.. though we might not know you*

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Anonymous ● 11 April, 2021 ⚓︎


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i've done the same thing too- boxed myself in with my anxiety and self-defeating thoughts. even when people offer conservation, help , or to go for a walk , i reject it. i've not been showering or even brushing my teeth lately, so that has put a barrier as i am too unpresentable to see people. may we all learn to pick ourselves up when we need it most. if we dont root for ourself , even with other people trying , it'll never pull us out if we are anchoring ourselves down to pit of despair