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past haunting

posted by 💡1 Terrific Paisley Mango on 02 April, 2019

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i'm married almost 3 years ago but there is not one day i can stop thinking about the past. my life before marriage was terrible went through break ups cheated and harassed and i'm worried if will it affect my future. i'm scared to do anything in life.the past has been haunting me both mentally and physically. i feel terrible i have a loving husband and he does know my past.




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Anonymous ● 02 April, 2019 ⚓︎


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are you able to focus on small achievements rather than looking st the bigger picture?

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Anonymous ● 03 April, 2019 ⚓︎


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definitely talk to your husband about this. he's there to love and support you

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Anonymous ● 03 April, 2019 ⚓︎


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that's so hard and you are strong to talk about it. keep sharing with people. nobody blames you for feeling emotions because of your past. it isn't something you can control and the fact that you're aware of it is already a step in the right direction

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it can help to think of yourself as a different person than your past self who made those mistakes. in a sense, it's true. it can be argued that each person is defined by the sum of their beliefs and experiences. you now have different beliefs and experiences than you did in the past - you've learned from mistakes and would now make different choices if you could go back and do it again. in a way, that makes you a different person. this doesn't absolve responsibility, but it can help with the growing process. don't let past you be an obstacle for current you, or you'll be doing a disservice to future you.