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my wife cheated and i’m so embarrassed

posted by Anonymous on 11 November, 2022

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ive been married to my wife for 7 years. weve had some really good times and of course some bad ones. but we were 20-27, so we grew together a lot. she finally told me that she didn’t know how she was with me and wanted to discover herself. but really she was cheating and just wanted to be with them. i can’t afford to move out so we’re still living together. yet i get to see her everyday and know that she’s going out with him. and i hate that she’s happy, when she’s the one who cheated. i also can’t explain it but i feel so embarrassed that she cheated. a sort of shame that i cant get over. i don’t even know what to do with myself anymore. im breaking down and i cant pick myself up.




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Anonymous ● 16 November, 2022 ⚓︎


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my advise to you is to not be embarrassed. i know that sounds hard but look at it this way... she is the cheater and the fact you stayed loyal proves you deserve someone better. she will get karma and you will get some kick but awesome person that is going to be your ride or die! she will end up with a user, abuser, negecter, horribly cheater. and the fact you stayed loyal only proves your a heartfelt lovebly man,or women or non bionary extradinary human being. i really hope this helps just know that someone will find you even in the mist of darkness.

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Evenly Colorful Stingray ● 16 November, 2022 ⚓︎


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i was the one that talked about you being loyal in the last text. anyways i wouldnt try to see her because it could bring up some negative thoughts!

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Anonymous ● 25 November, 2022 ⚓︎


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thank you, that was really sweet of you. and today on thanksgiving, it’s what i needed to hear. i know i need to move on and focus on me, but it’s easier said then done. but i’m trying one day at a time. even when she throws her new relationship in my face. i still try my best to be better, and focus on me.

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Lit Speckled Cherry ● 13 December, 2022 ⚓︎


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that's really terrible. most of all, you should have a line of communication jotted down and saved right away. now, if your wife has wandering feelings, you should really try sending a daily message for her, even if it really builds up. if she ever wants to reply, she can just look back and know that you've been caring. 1 message per day.

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Cozy Rainbow Salmon ● 04 January, 2023 ⚓︎


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i feel your embarassment. i feel the same. i will read any advice given to you will interest,,,, but you are not alone. and whilst you always read and see programs about the terrible men... its not always the men who do the dirty.

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Anonymous ● 25 December, 2022 ⚓︎


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when a partner cheats it hurts, just as when any relationship ends. you will get through this, you will move on and perhaps eventually date again someday. there is no reason to feel shame or embarrassment. allow yourself to feel any emotion and i’m sure you will feel many but understand that you will get through this turmoil. just like any other bump in the road you will continue and become stronger. you will be happy again and you will find love again.