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married a narc

posted by Anonymous on 06 March, 2020

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i've been in a total dysfunctional marriage for 27 years. i've endured more psychological and emotional abuse than i'd like to admit. he told me that he wants a divorce, i think he's playing games. even if he's not, i've been so ready to be done. what's stopped me for so long has been my dependence on his income, our kids (2/3 are now grown), as well as just feeling so beat up inside. at this point, i have very few local friends or family so i feel very isolated, and i'm just not sure how to finally pick myself up and start in the direction of living my best life.

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💡95 💎2 Delightful Scarlet Jellyfish ● 16 March, 2020 ⚓︎

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hey there! let me begin by congratulating you. you are a freaking great person and i hope you understand how brave you are for all you've been enduring and, mostly, for wanting to break free from that abusive household. as someone who knows a little bit about those kinds of situations, let me tell you that the abuser usually tries to make their partner feel isolated, like they have no one to turn to. even if you feel you don't have your family or your friends by your side, you should know there are always other structures to help you on times like these. however, and i can't stress this enough, it's important you try to strengthen the bonds you have with your friends and with your family. like it has already been said, if you got through that, you can get through anything! it'll be hard, picking yourself up, but you will never be alone. whenever you need it, mellowtalk will be right here. until then, stay strong!

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Anonymous ● 15 March, 2020 ⚓︎

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as someone who grew up in a toxic household, i would def suggest to go through with the divorce do not feel discouraged, you can do this !if you got through that, you can get through anything! be self motivated dont lose hope you are worth of love ! you are worth of life, no man should ever mistreat a woman! despite you thinking your children probably dont see,trust me my mom tried her hardest to hide it but we all see and honestly, we (me and my siblings) hate are father , dont let it get to that point!