posted by Anonymous on 20 July, 2020
has anybody ever gave up after years of trying with anxiety and depression ... and then just given up, turned into a slob , escaping everyday into unhealthy and addictive , unproductive activities? i just have no standards for myself anymore, my character is bad - im a miserable person , lazy to do constructive things to build myself up again . i stay withdrawn and away from people. the few friendships i had are gone as i never shared that i was struggling ever with depression/anxiety just shocking how much of a mess i am and worse that i am almost choosing to be like that with my poor choices. this is the longest time ive ever been staying like this , i feel it is so much a part of me . i think ill end up committing suicide in the future if i carry on hating who i am. any pointers ? how did anyone build their self-love , self-respect up and change themselves and their life from anxiety/depression cycles ??
in addition to all the great advice i have seen here, i would say it's important to set goals for yourself. however, there's something that's very important to remember with goals: when you set a goal, it's important to find value in striving for the goal, as opposed to reaching it. for example, if your goal is to master an instrument, have that be your goal, but try to find your happiness in the work you do every day to reach that goal, not the goal itself. the goal gives you direction, but your sense of purpose comes from the day to day stuff you do to work towards that goal.