posted by 💡1 Majestically Silky Loris on 02 February, 2021
there's a girl who goes to my high school who i have been best friends with for years. we have known each other since we were both 13, we sit together in lessons and so on and we like have so much in common. but we have never taken it further than like just friends. anyway she has been going through like a rough time lately cos her mom lost her job and has been struggling to pay rent, her home life has never been great but its kinda worse right now. and we were chatting a couple weeks ago and she was kinda venting to me about how tough things have been and i kinda just suddenly felt like i loved her so much and i just wanted to hold her and like make all the problems go away. like since then i have been thinking a lot about her and i think i literally am in love with her, i cant imagine what my life would be like if it didnt have her in it. but i dont know if she feels the same about me, she has never hinted at it. and she is my best friend, i dont wanna ruin the friendship we have by telling her this if she doesnt feel the same way. and i'm pretty awkward about these things at the best of times haha. but at the same time i feel like i just really have to tell her and ill regret it my whole life if i dont.
hey loris, hope you're doing well. been there, mate. its indeed a bit risky on how to approach this situation. on one hand we love them so much that we want to be there for them and care for them. but on the other hand, there's a tiny bit of dilemma whenther they see us romantically or not. she could be venting to you because you've been her rock and a good ear since so long. not only that but she trusts you. you know what, you should tell the same thing you've posted here. just make sure, you find the right time. confessing when she's venting is a no go. try letting her know your feeling when you are with calmer and clearer minds. so that she can think bout and let you know what she feels. that way, in case she doesn't reciprocate, she'd be able to think and speak about it without other stressful factors weighing on jer decision. let her know what you said here. that you dont wanna ruin the friendship. im sure she would understand. in case she didnt, give her time to process. hope that helped! let us know how it goes!