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trans problems...

posted by Anonymous on 28 June, 2020

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at the last few months i’ve been very confused about who i am. ive resized that i want to be a girl, but no matter how i look at it, i have always been a normal boy as a kid and even now i sometimes act too boyish, with makes me feel disgusted about myself, kind of like gender disphoria but with my personality. i tried to ask in other places, but people say to me that i should just be who i want to be, but i can’t just change my disgusting personality if i would just want to. and also, the same people that say to me that its ok if i was a normal boy when i was young and that the only thing that matters is what i feel now are transgender that felt like the other gender from their childhood. i couldn’t find anyone that i could relate to, and i just don’t feel like i fit in this world.

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Specifically Silver Wallaby ● 15 July, 2020 ⚓︎

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hello, friend! first of all, i hope you know that nothing about you is "disgusting". secondly, i want you to know that you do fit in this world simply by experiencing the emotions that you are. many people question their gender or sexuality and i think that sometimes we put too much pressure on labels. are you trying to find a label for yourself and your own joy? or for other people to categorize you? if it is the latter, i hope you know that you do not have to be someone for anybody else. you do what makes you happy. and if you are questioning things right now, that's okay! we do not have to know everything about ourselves at all times. it's a journey. and maybe you can reach out to a professional to help you on that journey. good luck with everything!

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Anonymous ● 20 July, 2020 ⚓︎

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hey, gender identity is becoming something very fluid nowadays, and the identity that you feel comfortable with you should go with that. also, dont get taken in by the stereotypes of 'girl' and 'boy' behaviour, there is no such thing in reality and you dont need to be ashamed of your personality, because it is separate from your gender identitiy