posted by Anonymous on 14 February, 2020
hello i have been having this poor coping mechanism for sometime now . i coop up and avoid people, my routine turns upside down as i am avoiding life but i become very mindless and either spend endless time distracting myself or eating. i feel really bad shutting people out or not interacting with them while i am hooked onto these self-destructive habits. i think i am really lacing in self-awareness that i can fall into these ruts time and time again. has anyone ever changed themselves from such shameful habits before? any advice on how i can face myself and make myself a better person? is the answer to motivation and improving oneself , to be more connected with other people and the world around me? i isolate too much , i think that is something i have done naturally many times over the years and cant help falling back into every time i am stressed.
hi there! you already got some extremely good answers, built upon their own experiences. i think that hearing from someone who had to deal with self-destructive habits is a "privilege" (may not be the best word, but it's the one that came to mind). like it has already been mentioned, your self-awareness is, indeed, your most valuable mechanism to start the process of change. change is all about self-awareness, about learning to understand what you're doing and what's happening around you, about trying to conceive the best coping mechanisms for what's going on. i understand this can be hard, because it envolves taking a step further, sometimes even walking with your eyes closed for a little bit. try to understand what is it you're trying to avoid, who is it you're trying to shut out. try to understand why you're doing it and how you're doing it. bear in mind that your first step is the hardest one. however, if you feel like giving up, please ask for someone's help. we're always here to listen, but you can also ask a friend, a family member or a therapist for help. good luck!