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my mom makes me feel utterly useless because i earn little

posted by 💡1 Super Colorful Turtle on 20 October, 2018

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my mom's retired and we both live off with my earnings (not big enough for luxurious things but sufficient to get by). there are times when i give her our monthly cash/addtl cash late cuz i'm so busy with work. now, i give her the cash. then she starts whining that she wasn't able to do this/buy that.. and that money nowadays can't buy much.. ugh fuck. this always happens, everytime she asks for extra cash or if i hand it a bit late. i don't wanna quit my job because it's gonna pay off great soon. but she just makes me feel soooo inadequate, always. idk what to do. i just wanna disappear so she can live on her own and not have someone to blame anymore.




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Merrily Red Gorilla ● 21 October, 2018 ⚓︎


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look u can always make her feel threaten like tell her that u r working ur ass off to provide her a bite to eat and if she didnt stop complaining u r gonna leave her alone and she wont be able to even feed herself so just scare her shitless and she will quite the complaining iam sure and always safe some money for the future wish i helped

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Anonymous ● 23 October, 2018 ⚓︎


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not a bad idea, and very satisfying, but threats are a worse case scenario. i think he should be more diplomatic first

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Anonymous ● 23 October, 2018 ⚓︎


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you are very strong doing this for yourself and your mother. doubly so because you have to deal with this emotional conflict as well. it's never easy having someone constantly antagonizing you in your own home, especially if that person is family. what is most important is that you do what you think is right and never let her tell you your actions are wrong. you know it isn't true. talk to her, maker her see your side. and if that doesn't work, let her know that she is in no position to continue treating you the way she does, if you catch my drift. be confident and forward when communicating with her. continue doing your best with what you have, you're already doing such a good job of it. it's all anyone can ask of you and i know with your work ethic things will look up in the future.