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my mom isnt going to let me deny confirmation

posted by 👍3 💡17 Slightly Symmetrical Monkey on 07 September, 2019

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i told my mom i'm an athiest (have been for 2 years by now, just havent told them until like 2 or 3 days ago) because i didnt want to have confirmation (for non-christians, it's basically adding a saint's name to your name (as a middle name)) and now she's saying that "i can't deny confirmation without asking her first" which means "hey yeah ask me, your very christian mother, if you can deny confirmation, which i'm sure to n o t let you deny, before you actually go through with it!" and now my parents are trying to prove that god is real every fucking time i talk to them its getting so hard to not cry whenever it happens now because i dont wanna be forced to add a saint's name to my name because to my school it's something that like fully confirms my christianity. other students know im an athiest and they stopped caring by now, but like i'm scared that my mom (and maybe dad) are gonna force me to do confirmation




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💡2 Lively Scarlet Toucan ● 13 September, 2019 ⚓︎


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i’ve already had my confirmation and i always went along with every catholic ceremony because i went to catholic primary and secondary schools and tbh i didnt really know there was any other option until i was about 12/13 and when i fully grasped the concept of “god” i just completely decided i was atheist. ever since my parents haven’t said much but occasionally my dad will just have random outbursts of anger and say i’m stupid and that i’m close minded and basically try to manipulate me into the religion which is completely ludicrous. at the end of the day your parents can control almost every aspect of your life apart from your own private thoughts. to me, because i dont believe in god or religion i dont find it hard to go along with the ceremonial things because they don’t hold any value to my life but it makes my parents and grandparents happy so i do it for their benefit rather than mine. hope it helps a bit :)

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👍3 💡17 Slightly Symmetrical Monkey ● 13 September, 2019 ⚓︎


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thanks, i actually really like this reply and find it pretty helpful! (also happy birthday!!)

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Anonymous ● 10 September, 2019 ⚓︎


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you're young. you don't understand their efforts. i'm a hippie. age, history and beliefs prove it. i did not force religion on my children. i said they would be able to choose for themselves but i trusted my children to use their god given intelligence to give it deep thought and consideration. nope. liberal child is "atheist" (a religion), son deceased but catholic for marriage and protestant daughter for marriage. my religion comes from heart and my sda upbringing did not help. anyhow, you're young and mom and dad will someday not be here. give them happiness now and you peace of heart later.