posted by 💡1 Long Purple Ram on 10 October, 2019
i hate depression. its caused such a riff in my once wonderful relationship. yes, i get moody and snappy with people. my boyfriend says he won’t put up with it anymore and has become so detached from this relationship. i ask him for help but i don’t know how to direct him in helping me. “i just want your presence,” i say. his reply, “are you going to be all moody?” like dang, nevermind then. dont offer help if it’s such an inconvenience for you. especially when i’m down! it takes a lot of bravery to admit feeling that way and now i’m scared to even let you know because you think i’ll just be mean to you.
depression is something you have to deal with, but it's also something that comes with you. it doesn't define you, but it is part of your life. it's important you feel that the people around you accept that. maybe it's time you both have a conversation about it, both of you explaining how you feel. it's surely hard for you both having that kind of fights about it. and yes, it really is very brave of you to admit your feelings. and it'll also take a lot of bravery to talk to him about it. but remember that, in a relationship, there are some key factors, like trust and communication. work on them and everything will fall into its right place
Anonymous ● 10 October, 2019 ⚓︎
i have been working on them. i used to not say anything and just retreat and sleep and shut everyone out. now i open up about it because i’ve been working on myself so much the past couple of years and i’m proud of that. it doesn’t stop the feeling though. but i feel like his refusal to celebrate my tiny wins (which are huge to me) make me not want to open up at all to him. slowly losing trust and security in this because he expects bigger changes.
it makes you proud and it also makes me proud! you go! just because he doesn't appreciate those little changes, those tiny wins, it doesn't mean they are not worth something. they are worth a lot. it's all about him understanding your position, and about you doing a little more effort on "instructing" him. relationships, sometimes, take a little bit of that extra, boring effort