posted by Anonymous on 28 July, 2020
so i just found out that some of my co-workers think i’m really shit at my job. i don’t even know how the hell i should process this information. i try my hardest, i really do. i just feel so worthless right now. i’m trying my hardest and i’m still not good enough. this really hurts.
social pain feels almost identical to real pain and lasts longer a lot of the time. it's something everyone experiences and takes time to heal. but it will heal. that said, i want to reassure you that no matter what anyone does there will be people you don't get along with. you can't please everyone and as long as you hold yourself to that impossible standard you will be unhappy. what is hurting you now is the dissonance between how you want people to see you and how you see yourself. the key is observing that fact and accepting who you are right now as different from the negative idea you have about how they see you. shit at your job or not, you can use this to become a better person. if it rings true you know you can try harder and change people's opinion. if it isn't true, it should have no bearing on your emotions because you know it doesn't define you. there's no need to be so hard on yourself. take care.