posted by 💡1 Zestfull Colorful Toad on 03 December, 2019
ok so my parents are in a weird kind of relationship where one moment they'll be living together and joking and telling each other they love each other, and then the next there's constant yelling and arguing and dads gone back to his flat. this obviously isn't a very nice relationship to witness, and it especially wasn't nice to witness while on a family holiday a few months or so ago with them and my brother. lots and lots of nasty words were said to one another at some point during every day we were there, and it all built up to the last day, when we were going to the beach. dad was driving the car around the roundabout and trying to get back onto a main road, except the road was crowded af and another car was also trying to get onto it at the same as us. mum really loves the beach and was eager to get there as soon as possible, so she told dad to make sure the other car wouldn't get in front of us in a rather not-so-nice tone. dad started saying how the other car was already kind of in front of us and we should just let it go in order to be more safe but mum just kept on nagging him. the other car managed to beat us to it and mum yelled at dad once more. then dad lost it and started yelling back at mum. lots and lots and lots of yelling, all very awkward to have to listen to. eventually the car arrived at the beach and everybody but dad got out. mum walked around on the sand for a bit before calling her mother and a friend to pick us all up from the place we were staying at. we walked back to the car and acted normally around dad on the ride back. after packing up our shit we walked out the door without telling dad where we were going and to where mums mom and friend were both parked and we got driven home from there. when we were back home mum told everybody what had happened, except she told it in this bullshitty way where she made it sound like dad had attacked her out of nowhere. the worst part was that my brother agreed with her and everybody else didn't bother to question her. its been pissing me off ever since and i've not been able meet with dad because i still feel bad about leaving without a proper word. very cringe.
in sorry for what you had to face. but i did not understand the context properly have your parents splitted and are together for a specified time? what do you mean by "dads apartment"?
uh, its kinda on and off? like sometimes when they're in a good mood dad will stay at our house, but then he and mum will argue and he'll go back to his flat and live there for however long.
Anonymous ● 16 December, 2019 ⚓︎
it may be scary, but you should have a sit down with your parents and talk to them about what has been going on. communication is important and if they don't listen, at least you can have the peace knowing that you tried.
Anonymous ● 28 February, 2020 ⚓︎
hi there! i understand how much it sucks to have an on-and-off parent's relationship. it must be putting you through a lot of hard times but most likely they won't even realize it because they are so engrossed in their arguments. and the fact that they just pulled up to different places must obviously be putting you into a place that's making you choose between the two. you first need to understand that you are in no control of these circumstances and try seeing them as two imperfect people trying to fix their relationships and flaws. the best you can do is to try and not get involved and be detached. avoid voicing your opinions since it's them who need to communicate with each other. your brother picking on your mom's side might just be he felt she was right in his perspective or that he might be feeling or subdued to do so. doesn't mean you need to do the same. stick to what you think is right. and as far your dad is concerned, he obviously deserves to know about you so either call him or go meet him. don't overburden yourself, these fluctuations will come and go. try working or fixing your mind on something you like doing. let's pray for a better tomorrow, fingers crossed.