posted by 💡13 Festive Brown Moose on 22 April, 2020
my girlfriend has been cheating on me for over a year and i don’t know what i should do
hi there! a situation like this is always hard. i understand you must feel sad or even angry or confused. no matter what you're feeling, i want you to know that it's normal to feel that way. however, you need to sort it out before you make a decision. would you like to talk a little bit more about that?
well, what do you feel comfortable to share about this?
we dated for a really long time, since middle school and i have always bent over backwards for her but she randomly brought up being poly and i told her that i don’t have a problem with people who are but that’s not what i want. she’s cheated on me multiple times over the past few years and i just don’t understand why.
there's nothing wrong with being in a polyamory relationship, as long as everyone gives their consent. obviously, even though you accept her preferences, you are not comfortable including other people in your relationship, which is completely fine. however, it also means that her behavior is unacceptable, because she's not respecting your wishes. nevertheless, the fact that she told you she was poly might mean two things: either she's really confused about what she wants and she's trying to figure it out or she's already made up her mind and is currently trying to justify her cheating. either way, i think it's better if you talk to her and figure it out, because, at the end of the day, those might mean different things. and, as in everything else, you can't rightfully make a decision without being informed.
Anonymous ● 15 May, 2020 ⚓︎
do you think she cheats just to cheat or do you think she was looking to fill a void and it turned into something more serious? you need to confront her