posted by Anonymous on 01 March, 2019
i love my girlfriend, we've been together about six months and she's honestly the best, most interesting, intelligent person. but she really is emotionally a mess and i worry about her. she's had the hardest life imaginable, her mum was a heroin addict, she lived in massive poverty, she was sexually abused growing up. before i met her she tried to kill herself twice. she's on antidepressants which help her function but they don't make the symptoms go away. she's such a kind, beautiful person but she struggles so bad, i mean sometimes she's ok but sometimes she can barely motivate herself even to take a shower or clean her teeth for days at a time. i love her so much but it's kinda scary sometimes. i'm kind of her only friend and the only person she really trusts. she even says like i'm the only good thing that's ever happened to her. i know she wouldn't do anything like try to kill herself again but i worry about her all the same.
i struggle with anxiety and depression every day. journaling, meditation, support groups, anonymous chats like this help a lot when i feel like she does. you just being there matters most
Anonymous ● 01 March, 2019 ⚓︎
you're doing a wonderful job helping her just asking for help in this way. no matter what the situation you have to make sure you're holding up okay first. the absolute best you can do is offer love and support. when my friends are feeling depressed i always figure out what their favorite healthy coping mechanism is (exercise, a nice meal, a good movie) and do it with them. social interaction is absolutely key and many times the best solution involves a change of scenery. try and get her out of the house to break the habit of being content with staying in and being depressed. validate her emotions, but always encourage healthy behavior. you're a good person. thank you for helping her and caring like my friends cared about me when i was sick. you'll get through this because you're already being smart by asking for assistance. there's no need to go at this alone, talk to people wherever and whenever you can about your own issues. take care.