posted by 💡3 Quirky Young Lilac on 20 May, 2019
so i was dating this guy for 2-3 months.. we were both attracted to each other and he seemed to want to make it more serious. i was older he didnt mind. everything was good when one night his ex came and threatened suicide and pregnancy. i happened to be in the vicinity and he saw me cry. but i dint interfere between them. he told me he wants to breaak up and not date anyone. however after that incident, his ex moved on and he kept in touch with me. (she wasnt pregnant). he kept hanging out with me wen i asked and half the time on his own. i was working towards being a very good friend and then see what happens. once when i was out of town he constantly texted me etc. till last month he said i was his favorite person after his bff. suddenlt since this month(he has gotten busy and is in the last year of his degree), he kind of avoids me,citing he is busy but gos hanging out with others.. even a junior girl. he said he is irritated since i ask to meet him thrice a week.. when i checked i used to just check up and text him about his day and never ask to meet.this went on for 2 weeks.. and i texted him to ask whats going on and why he avoids me like the plague. cos till last month he used to send friendly texts about his day and now he doesnt text at all. he said he is working, he doesnt want to make the effort and im clingy and blocked me on whatsapp. i respected that and didnt call or sms. what i dont understand is till 2 weeks earlier im his close friend and now he acts like im a psycho stalker? i never made my attraction to him too obvious, rather he only used to make it obvious in front of his peers. i havent gone or made a scene or kept calling him or anything. it really hurts me.i just text routinely like i used to before and he got irritated with that too. i dunno whats going on.. and why over 1-2 weeks he disregarded my friendship too. one week he hasnt unblocked me and i havent contacted him. how do i react?
Anonymous ● 21 May, 2019 ⚓︎
sounds to me like he doesn't want to talk. i know that seems obvious, but it seems like you're really reading into his behavior. i say screw it. if he wants to be rude and ghost you without explanation then fuck him. why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who wouldn't give you the time of day? the key here is to avoid assigning blame. you don't know what's going on behind the scenes and the best thing to do is probably not even to engage with him if he doesn't want it. it isn't your fault, so i would recommend not looking too closely at his behavior. it sounds like you're younger. there are plenty of other people who would be more than happy to actually reciprocate emotions rather than play these games. go find someone better for you.