posted by Anonymous on 19 June, 2022
its difficult for me right now for me to wrap my head around the situation considering the fact that this is the first father’s day without my dad is really getting to me, it’s tough to deal with something like this just wish my dad was here right now
Anonymous ● 20 June, 2022 ⚓︎
i'm so sorry you lost your dad. i'm sure this emotional toll is brutal and there aren't a lot of things people can say which can help you. the best i can offer are some things which helped me deal with the loss of my mom: - i got back to work as soon as i could. finding an outlet for this energy (even if that energy is grief), is so important in going back to a time of normality. - i started doing more creative work. it could be writing, or music, or journaling. for me it was painting. sometimes just writing down how you feel helps. it's amazing how profound that can be. - i spent more time around friends. even though i didn't want to, i knew if i withdrew i would lose the foundation which kept me tethered to this earth. go out with people you enjoy spending time with. they are your most valuable asset for staying out of your own head. - lastly, i tried every day to understand to the core of my being she was gone. grief for me felt like i always trying to get to her, that i was so close, but couldn't find her. i wanted to pick up the phone and call her. sometimes i did and i spoke to the answering machine. it helped me realize that she was always with me in my memories and in those she was as real as ever. but most importantly, it stuck that i wouldn't be able to reach her any more on this earth and that forwarded my process along. feel the things you feel. sit with that grief as long as you need to and don't try and convince yourself that you need to be better all at once. when your dad was here he loved you very much. i'm so glad you were able to spend the time you did with him.
Anonymous ● 21 June, 2022 ⚓︎
im so sorry for your loss as well it definitely hurts each time when days go on