posted by Anonymous on 12 July, 2019
it’s not like i cry everyday.i hardly cry at all, but there are times when i feel embarrassed or maybe pressured ,my eyes will get watery and my cheeks will burn up ,and eventually people will notice,and i’ll be more embarrassed and self conscious about what people will think about me.i try to play it cool but deep inside i feel kinda lame for tearing up for small things. and i know it’s nothing to cry about, yet i still do. are there any advices to not tear up easily?
hii there, honestly i used to have the same issue and even though i was constantly told that tears wont determine how strong you are, i could contain the feeling of being self conscious and embarrassed specially due to the fact that it might make people take me less seriously. but dont worry, there is always a way out of it will help you deal with the stress u might encounter in your everyday life. i usually tend to cry when i am unable to cotain my stress and anger or when i am heated up during an argument with a specific group of people. so basically, you have to find a way to contain that emotional strain or express it through a different pathway when i used tp feel like that i gave of a very calm and neutral expression to stop the person in front of me carrying on or continuong the argument with excessive enthusiasm. i would take a deep breath several time and tilt me head up to stop the tears falling easily. i would constantly tell my self(in silence) that this never bothers me and it shouldnt ever do so. convince yourself that you are very capable of controlloing that anger and drift your mind towards a positive thought that constantly makes you smile and feel better
and just to clarify i hold nothing against crying or expressing your emotion but i know how frustrating it is when you are unable to control your stress and tears in trivial situations that are not worth making a fuss about. crying can make you feel better for sure and it isn’t a sign of weakness. but being capable of drifting your thoughts and controlling your stress helps in so many ways to reduce that issue
hi once i had the same problem but then i began to accept that i’m began to cry easily. it kind of also makes me happy that i’m not totally heartless (:
Anonymous ● 01 August, 2019 ⚓︎
personally i just smack my cheeks and the shock factor forces me to stop for a few seconds. crying can get very frustrating at little things but the best advice is to distract yourself with anything else. though, you shouldn't feel lame. it shows that ur a person who actually cares so there's nothing to be ashamed of