posted by Anonymous on 18 August, 2020
hey there, hope today's treating you well, ^^ [brief sui/suicide bait warning] also, i just finished a session with a listener on 7cups, and honestly, it was so disappointing to be flirted with, not even be listened to, asked where i am from, how long i am/was a 7cups listener, then have him completely stop without even addressing how i am feeling, with some apologies, though his actions didn't match up, and he judged my friend, then gave me advice, and... that was truly underwhelming. i used to do blahtherapy then totally stopped after being suicide baited twice, as well as having to try to prevent someone from killing themselves, then found 7cups and usually its... just... not... good... i feel like i've had poor luck, even on mellowtalk, as one of the listeners basically was like me too, and using the upside-down/smiley and i felt it was passive-aggressive, and i wasn't even heard, basically, i think i'm just saying, it would be nice to just have a listener be gentle, interested, validating, easygoing, fair, and above all, try to be empathetic without giving you advice unless asked or judged in any way... thank you to anyone who read this n' listened, i appreciate it, ^^ tl;dr: i've had some poor experiences on this site, blahtherapy, and 7cups, though, i hope to have a good listener online one day, n' thank you for your listening,
Anonymous ● 19 August, 2020 ⚓︎
i won't comment on any other sites, but the listeners on mellow talk are very sincere in their effort to help people. that's my experience, anyway. they are not required to be psychologists. they are not paid. they volunteer. anyone can do it, even people who are not suited to it. if you are in any way disrespected during a conversation, you can disconnect. you don't have to put up with that. i would just say, look what you are asking for. "... gentle, interested, validating, easygoing, fair, and above all, try to be empathetic without giving you advice unless asked or judged in any way." perhaps if you didn't arrive with a list of requirements, you'd have a better experience with online therapy. maybe you could be more easygoing and fair with the listeners. they aren't perfect, but they're trying to help.
Anonymous ● 19 August, 2020 ⚓︎
i hear where you are coming from, i imagine i will have to give it another try if needed! that is true that they are not psychologists or licensed therapists, necessarily in any way, and that they are unpaid, volunteering is kind, and comes from a wish to help, i believe and thank you for reminding me i can simply disconnect, i honestly forget i can do that, i see what you mean, those are just hopes for me for an ideal listener, though i seldom use other sites as i am thankful i am able to have a therapist, although sometimes i try to connect in-between sessions if needed, thank you for reminding me the good in what other listeners want to do and i want to share that i do not expect any of the listeners to be "gentle, interested, validating, easygoing, fair, and above all, try to be empathetic without giving you advice unless asked or judged in any way"; though it is just a wish that i would hope to be treated with and what i strive to do when i am a listener on 7cups/blahtherapy/mellowtalk, i understand that it is not a requirement, though i get what you mean, thank you for your time and i appreciate it, as well as your input too, <3