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just not the same

posted by Anonymous on 11 October, 2019

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to put it simply, my energy just ain't the same as it used to be. i used to be surrounded by people and i used to be considered hilarious. for some reason i have now become somewhat of a mute. i'm not shy when it comes to talking to new people, it's just that my mind goes completely blank when i'm trying to start a conversation, and eventually it gets awkward. even with people i've known my whole life. i've heard and have seen people who used to be quiet who are now the life of the party because they used to be shy but found their self confidence, but it's pretty wack if it happens the other way around,and has nothing to do with being shy.




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💡62 💎2 Delightful Scarlet Jellyfish ● 12 October, 2019 ⚓︎


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hi there! you're talking about a big change. however, that change can have different reasons. do you have any idea about what could have changed? is there something in your life that could have caused it?

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Anonymous ● 14 October, 2019 ⚓︎


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it could just be a phase, or it could be some developmental anxiety. anxiety takes a lot out of your body. imagine running your computer at 100% cpu at all times. it would get hot and burn out quickly. that is what is happening to our brains. if you can have a dr. rule out a physical issue, like your thyroid, then it is probably anxiety. in which case, you would need to get that treated. in these cases when you're not sure, writing things down just like this can help straighten things out so you better understand your own feelings.

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Anonymous ● 14 October, 2019 ⚓︎


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there are some simple conversational techniques that could get your engine going again. active listening, asking clarifying questions, maintaining good eye contact, ect. as for the underlying issue, people's energy levels can change for any number of reasons. good ways of boosting that usually involve finding some kind of exercise you like whether that be running, weight training, jiu jitsu, ect. doing activities with other people with similar interests is also a good way to jump start conversations

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Anonymous ● 14 October, 2019 ⚓︎


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not everyone has to develop the same way. people wax and wane in their conversational ability. especially regarding social skills, practice makes perfect!