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got cheated, not able to trust again

posted by 💡2 Classy Maroon Kouprey on 21 September, 2019

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it's the same story ,she cheated ,tried forgiving not happening, she's not letting me go , and m not able to be with her ,just literally killing me evryday




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💡62 💎2 Delightful Scarlet Jellyfish ● 21 September, 2019 ⚓︎


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all people have different ideas about cheating. some people find it impossible to forgive, others don't. i personally find that, more than the act of forgiving, it's the act of trusting again that undermines the relationship. first of all, what you have to do is to think about your own good. be as selfish as you need to be, because you have that right. remember that you're the one who got hurt and the one who got betrayed. i'm not telling you to hold any grudges, obviously, but try to understand what happened in a rational way, so she won't have the power to "play the victim" in this situation. if you are unable to forgive her right now, that's okay. you are not wrong for doing so and you need to come to peace on your own terms. maybe you'll forgive her one day, maybe you won't. the important thing is that your conscience stays clean, so you won't regret your choices. if i understood correctly, you want to break up with her, but she doesn't want you to do it. going against all her wishes, you'll have to find a way to keep distance. if she becomes threatening ou manipulative, resort to all the mechanisms you can find to keep her away from you. it's a delicate situation to say goodbye to someone you trusted, someone you loved. take this time to think clearly about the way you'll do it, ask someone you know who has been in the same situation about what they've done and, then, focus only on yourself and on your recovery. it will be hard, but it will happen. and, until then, you'll always have someone in here to vent to

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💡2 Classy Maroon Kouprey ● 21 September, 2019 ⚓︎


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thanks but this person i says it's okay,i had you in my mind when i made out 😂 that's manipulation , it's all lies , it's time i let things go, i think but then when i try to sleep it all rushes back in

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trying to lessen the blame really is manipulation, but it's great that you are able to recognize that. it will be hard for you to put this thing to rest, but i trust you'll succeed. good luck with this!